I have just been shouted at by a senior* colleague.
Really, actually yelled at. In front of his two staff – at least one of whom is fairly regularly yelled at, I’m told.
I walked away and came back to my desk.
It made him look childish and unreasonable, and I hope I retained my dignity by refusing to stoop to shouting back… tempting though it was.
I’m more angry than upset, but should I:
a) apologise for walking out but explain that I won’t stay to be yelled at in the workplace
b) forget it
or
c) tell the boss – who is away on leave this week?
* senior in the sense that he is older than me and has been here longer, but he is in Sales and I’m in Creative, so I don’t report to him in any way. And I’m pretty senior myself.
Tags: inappropriate, Office, sales, shouting, yelling
November 11, 2009 at 7:55 pm |
Don’t mention it again to your shouter, but do indeed mention it to your boss. Take contemporaneous or as near-contemporaneous notes as you can manage after the event, submit them to your boss and make the point that a) you won’t be shouted at by this man. b) it made you feel uncomfortable, and that is the first stage of proof in a workplace harassment case and c) this man is demoralising his own team and the office at large.
What an utter wanker.
Go girl! You work harder than anyone I know and don’t deserve rants and anger directed at you in a professional environment, no matter what this person thought the provocation was. Well done on not engaging him!!
xxx
November 12, 2009 at 4:59 am |
What piereth says. Absolutely.
November 12, 2009 at 8:03 am |
Yay piereth!
November 12, 2009 at 8:21 am |
All that pierath said – and an anonymous thumbtack pointyside up on his office chair!
November 12, 2009 at 12:01 pm |
What Piereth said. Frankly he owes you an apology, Woo, not the other way round.
November 12, 2009 at 12:22 pm |
Listen to Piereth. Don’t listen to me. Everything has always gone badly for me on all my jobs.
November 12, 2009 at 7:01 pm |
@ archiearchive – too right. How about a snake in his drawer?
November 13, 2009 at 8:39 am |
Thanks everyone. Sincerely: it really helped knowing I had a cheering squad behind me yesterday.
November 13, 2009 at 2:00 pm |
I’m with Piereth, and certainly your boss should be notified of his behaviour. Certainly his own staff should not have to put up with that sort of crap either, and if no one tells the person in command, there will be no way for the situation to be rectified.
November 15, 2009 at 6:11 am |
Yes, definitely tell your boss, but don’t you dare apologize to that asshat.
November 17, 2009 at 1:33 pm |
thanks folks – I have told my boss and she was understanding and apologetic on his behalf… clearly he won’t apologise himself, although he is treading extremely carefully around me now.
And no, I didn’t apologise to that arsehat. Excellent term, I shall use it more often!